“Try to see the good in others. When you’re tempted to judge someone, make an effort to see their goodness. Your willingness to look for the best in people will subconsciously bring it forth.” – Marianne Williamson.
We all have a tendency to judge people and we do this without a full understanding of the other person’s situation. We judge others because they are different in some way. For example, they may display behaviour that is not acceptable to us, or their values may conflict with ours.
When we bring ourselves to a state of judging others, we bring out what is negative and we are not kind in our thoughts. We may keep these thoughts to ourselves, but most of the time, these thoughts are verbalized to others around us.
I know I have been guilty of this in the past and have paid a heavy price in terms of harming some relationships. Fortunately, these relationships were not harmed forever. Fortunately again, I have learned that I can never know the full truth of what is happening in another person’s life and that I cannot be the judge of others. Yes, I can evaluate whether I might want someone to be in my life or not, but I understand that I should spend my energies looking for what is positive in others–it is always there.
When you find yourself thinking or talking about others in a way that is judgmental, try to catch yourself. Try to reflect on what is bringing you to this state and make an effort to turn it around so that you are looking for something good and seeing what is best in others. Remember that we can change how we think and how we act–it just takes awareness and effort to shift our way of being.
As I looked for a suitable quote for this post, I came upon several that captured my thoughts on this subject. I will leave you with these thought-provoking words of wisdom.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” – Paulo Coehlo.
“Never judge until you can see through the eyes of that person you are judging, and then… never judge.” – Chris Crutcher.
“The least amount of judging we can do, the better off we are.” – Michael J. Fox.
Until next time.
P.S. The featured image for this post is of a kit member of a skunk family who lived under our front porch this past summer.